Wednesday, January 27, 2010

Routine +, and a personal reflection

Cooper was telling stories before bed.
Clayton had a peice of cheese stuck to her head.
Clayton loves to walk around in Kenndall's dress up shoes, they are 3 times bigger than her feet, but she loves to just walk and walk in them.
You can't really see the shoes, but this picture made me laugh.
A loving sister hug!

So, we have our weekly routine and then there are the plus's. The plus's are special things or out of the ordinary events. There have been lots of plus's lately, so we have stayed busy.
One of the best extra events, was Larissa's wedding. It meant so much for me to be a bridesmaid, and just to be a part of the whole thing was very special. She inspires me and I wish the best for her and her wonderful family!
Some of the other plus's include... working on things around the house, Brian's sport activites (basketball, dodge-ball), family activities, friend activities, I am so blessed with a life full of precious people and wonderful memories. Today, my friend Cindy cooked a great Taco Soup for lunch and I had a fun time at her house. (Although, how my children behaved and how many times they pooped or peed is a whole other story. )
The next couple of weeks will be busy as well. There is the Super Bowl, a baby shower, family in town for Masterfollies. Well, it looks like we will stay busy for awhile at least. That is ok with me.
Okay, now for some personal reflection that may be boring to some, but sometimes I need a little bit of an outlet. My busy mind is full of random and persistent thoughts that need to be organized or expressed in a somewhat fruitful and record keeping way. Ok, that sentence just scared me a little.
I have been thinking a lot lately on what God intended our relationships to look like. As we grow up we are provided with what we think are normal relationships and that gives us a pattern to go by. As we get a little older, it would do all of us some good to look at those patterns with an evaluating thought and determine if that is truly the pattern we want to follow with our lives. In my life I have 4 types of relationships that are very important to me. The first is my relationship with my husband, the second, my relationship with my children, third, my relationship with my family, and fourth, my relationship with my friends. These 4 types of relationships I am the model, the pattern for my children, and it is my goal to live them in a way that pleases God and in turn is healthy. The best way to determine how to act within relationships is to delve in to God's word and read how He wants you to treat people. This has been a very interesting study for me. I began it for purely selfish reasons, my brothers and I have continuing argument on judging and not judging people. So, I began a study to find why I believe what I think I believe. After 9 pages of notes and thoughts I began to realize that the treatment of people is a life issue and is considered a hugely important issue by God. There are hundreds of different examples, situations, sayings, verses, stories that are specifically written to teach us how to treat each other. I sincerely believe that it is the second most important reason for the Bible, the first being the story of our Saviour. The whole point of most of the passages of the Bible about personal interaction have specific things we must do or not do when it comes to treating others right. I am collecting thoughts on each of the relationships that I have listed above and I will share a tiny bit of what I have found. The over all theme of almost all relationships is love. Love is above all the most important theme as far as each personal relationship in the Bible. Jesus says it himself, when asked what the greatest commandment is, he says,"Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind.' This is the first and greatest commandment. And the second is like it: 'Love your neighbor as yourself." (Matthew 22:37-40 NIV) I think that if all of our relationships are given the love test, suddenly they will start being a little easier. Asking yourself, "what could I do in this relationship to show love?" That creates a whole new list of good things we can do for each other, and suddenly God's command to love each other grows in importance compared to Satan's continual barrage of selfishness and pride. This is something that I have to work on all the time, I have to make a an effort to wake up and say to myself, how can I show love to Brian, the kids, and who ever else comes to mind that day. I think if we wake up and make a mental list of people that we will see that day and think; how can I make their day better, then we will begin to clue in, little by little to God's love for us, and as that knowledge of of the enormity of God's love and grace grows, our capacity to do good for other will grow exponentially. Again, this is not easy, but it will guarantee you open doors for when it is time for you to share your own personal story of redemption. Ok, I shall step down from the soapbox. Real life gives us real pain, and real pain must have a real healing with a real love. Today, choose to love.